Sometimes the decisions you make as a parent wouldn't be the decision your young adult would make, and most of those decisions aren't that deep to give it as much energy as you might want to give it. I talk about this very thing and share my heart with the struggle of Roots & Wings in this blog post with video HERE. I say Struggle because well it is and I am learning every moment of every day how to be a better mom to each of my children in their seasons of life.
Learning to BREATH IN AND OUT…
Breath in Breath out….
Let me take you back to Senior Football night … this was just a year and a half before the sudden unexpected passing of my amazing husband Quintin
Quintin wrote on masking tape above Kale’s football locker “DON’T SUCK” – DAD (IYKYK)
If you zoom in on the picture above, you can see it a bit!
If you don’t know… This was a term of endearment he would often say to our kids to give them that extra push, keep them humble and to remind them to not take life so seriously.
Life is a series of choices … and isn’t what makes life so incredible, choices?
Back story: I remember Kale picking out his very first tattoo years ago a Cross with God is Higher than your highs and lows. (Ironic right?)
Quintin and I as parents should… pressed on him as to why he wanted it so bad and that he just needed to wait just in case he decided differently, a tattoo isn’t something to take lightly.
Well 2 years after that first discussion he had drawn it up and was old enough to make that decision whether or not “mom and dad” said ok.
I vividly remember Quintin looking at me and saying… “Lori, we said our peace we can go and lovingly support him or tell him no and then he will go off and make that decision at college and possibly hide it from us. He is a grown young man he can make these decisions for himself.”
Before he could even finish speaking, I was half way out the door to be there for that moment and even hopped in the chair myself. Long story I will share with you at some point. Below you can see the picture of us doing this together. Love this picture, in fact I MISS those smiles so much!! They came so naturally before our world got flipped upside down on April the 9th, 2024!
So the other day when I got the text, I am getting dad’s words in his handwriting “DON’T SUCK” on my arm so I can remind myself in life to work hard, stay humble and remember to laugh at myself … I didn’t hesitate
Well…. maybe slightly but had another conversation with Q … and I envisioned him laughing saying “I told you, it’s never just one” I grabbed my keys laughed and headed out the door.
Of course I wouldn’t miss it Kale! Always in your corner! Love you so much.
It’s all about Roots & Wings Mama … as I kept that on repeat the entire way there.
Ps- then he surprised me with a John 3:17
Whew this mama needs a nap! hahaha Love that he gave me a thumbs up as a reminder it really isn't that deep! It's all about perspective mama!
Becoming a WIDOW while parenting 4 teens has been extremely difficult…
This season of motherhood is a big learning curve for me, especially after the sudden loss of my best friend and husband for almost 25 years. I would always make the joke when I become a new mama in the thick of it with 4 kids under 5 and diapers up to my eyeballs, that I would gladly take this season of motherhood it was the teenage years that kept me awake at night and he reassured me that he would have no issues taking that season over, and well now I am doing it alone and it is not only exhausting but it is scary. I have to remind myself constantly that he is cheering me on even though he is not physically here and he was the most amazing father who constantly poured wisdom into my children that helped to make them who they are today. That wisdom he so graciously poured out over our children, we now today call Q'ism's!
Teens and young adults especially will start to make decisions that won't be yours, and things may happen or get broken like I talk and blog about in my “Even When” coffee chat but regardless of those decisions of circumstances they will never change the love you have your kiddo.
New to my BLOG? I am sharing more and more about my vulnerable grief journey with my unexpected loss of my BELOVED QUINTIN HERE I am doing my best to navigate our incredible loss and be then mom I need to be to our 4 children who are in the depths of their grief too.
Its all about Roots & Wings ! and I share a bit about that subject with tear filled eyes below.
Life is all about seasons ☀️⛅️⛈️🍂❄️
Learn to embrace them all!
Even though this chat isn't a typical coffee chat I have to share one of my very favorite mugs in my Crazy Busy Mama Exclusive collection.
THIS MUG above was designed with every Crazy Busy Mama in mind… I don't know a mom cant relate with this and needing a bit of a reset. “My Brain has TOO MANY TABS OPEN” If you find yourself needing a little more inspo in the morning you can GRAB this MUG HERE.
Every morning, I wake up and share a bit of my heart on my socials. If you are not following me on instagram, you can do so HERE and in this season specifically I am sharing my grief journey. Praying that I can share hope in the midst of my pain and how you too can find purpose in the midst of your valley by remembering Whose you are and who holds you! For those who would like to take a listen you can do so below.
So thankful for your encouragement each day 🥹your support means the world to me.
I am excited to announce, I have started my very own Crazy Busy Mama mug collection. Each one of these mugs have my signature exclusive signature on them. You can check them out HERE and you can SNAG IT your favorite – Each one of my designs comes with my CBM signature with a 💗✝️ on each. I hope you enjoy having coffee with me each morning and these exclusive CBM designs encourage you to put your best foot forward each day!
