Can I first say, how thankful I am for my kids? This picture below is a picture of me and my girls posing in our newest EASTER collection crewneck. “A Lot Can Happen in 3 Days”….which signifies a lot of us.
In grief, I am trying to focus on gratitude, as grief and loss are so incredibly heavy it will take me completely out if I don't try to focus on those people and things I am grateful for each and every day.
However, grief is real and I have promised to keep it real and raw with you on my platforms. So here is the rawness I am experiencing with a glimmer of hope for those who are also walking a similar journey!
11 Mths Today….
11 mths today 😥 with every passing day, I still cannot believe this is my new life. Grief is so indescribable, really so hard to put into words and it weighs on your emotions, mind, spiritual and physical body too! It is a constant dull ache, it is like you are homesick to a home you will never be able to return. It truly is the most awful feeling.
Someone once told me you may not have gotten to spend the rest of your life with them, but they got to spend the rest of their life with you, and if I am being honest there is beauty in that! I am so grateful that I got to spend so much time with my Q, but if I am being honest not enough time. His time, our family time, our time together was cut way too short. When you get married, it is until death do us part but mo one expects to lose your partner the one you love at the age of 46 unexpectedly! It quite literally turns life completely upside down.
These words that someone share out of encourage to me “Someone once told me you may not have gotten to spend the rest of your life with them, but they got to spend the rest of their life with you” Stopped me in my tracks!
If you are reading this and wondering about my devastating loss…
and If you hoped on this blog post for the first time and don't know about my precious and beloved Q you can read about his story HERE If you are a member of the unwanted club of widowhood like me, and are in desperate need of resources I urge you to check some resources HERE I am gathering for myself and for others walking this terribly difficult journey too!
I May Not Have Gotten to Spend the Rest of My Life With You, But You Got to Spend the Rest of Your Life with Me
Through my grief, I take some healing in this quote… because it postures me in a gratitude position. I am trying to focus on my life with Q NOT without him. Thankful for the life we had together and the blessings he bestowed on my children and how these blessings will continue to permeate through my children and their children and for many generations to come. Also, makes me incredibly grateful for the cross! Jesus crucifixion and death on the cross, He bore the weight of our sins defeated death by raising from the grave 3 days later! This is the HOPE we carry….the ultimate hope that we will see our BELOVED Q one glorious day!
If today is your Friday, take heart Sunday is coming!!
THE TOMB HAS BEEN ROLLED AWAY!! It is time to REJOICE…despite your circumstances, JOY is coming!! Start to proclaim it today! He has already WON THE BATTLE!
As mentioned above, just like our newest design Easter Crewneck signifies …A LOT CAN HAPPEN IN 3 DAYS!
Below is a picture of the design up close….
A Lot Can Happen in 3 Days….
He is Risen
“I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. John 11:25-26
This is what I cling to….as not only are we walking through the grief of losing Q, my sweet precious mama is walking through stage 3 Ovarian cancer. So many have reached out praying and every prayer has been felt, I cannot thank you enough.
Isn't she the cutest? She is also sporting “A Lot Can Happen in 3 Days” crewneck knowing full well that her Sunday is coming too!
So take heart Mama …
If today is your Friday, take heart Sunday is coming!!
I share a bit of my heart this morning below about my grief journey for those of you who want to listen in. Always appreciate a comment below if there is a hardship you are facing and need prayer too. So please feel free to comment below and let us know how you can be supported. I ask that you take a moment and pray for the comment below yours knowing full well when you leave your comment the next one commenting will be doing the same over yours.
A Lot Can Happen in 3 Days MUG
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Every morning, I wake up and share a bit of my heart on my socials. If you are not following me on instagram, you can do so HERE and in this season specifically I am sharing my grief journey. Praying that I can share hope in the midst of my pain and how you too can find purpose in the midst of your valley by remembering Whose you are and who holds you! For those who would like to take a listen you can do so below.
So thankful for your encouragement each day 🥹your support means the world to me.
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Hey Lori,
I pray for you and your family for comfort and inner strength. Although we don’t know why God calls home some of our loved ones home so early we just have to trust in him on why he did it.
Almost 6 years ago in July of 2019 I Lost My Amazing Sister…then 3 weeks later followed My Lovely Momma. So a double blow to our family. My Father lost his Wife and Daughter…us grown up kids lost our Mother and Sister. That was the Worst thing to ever happen in My entire life! Then covid happened and when most things were shut down I had No Momma to go to and talk to or complain about all the goings on. Or…to call and talk to one of my 2 sisters. It was So hard Lori…I would sit in My bedroom staring at the wall…no noise, no tv on, crying. Crying myself to sleep was what I did for months and hearing My father’s cries and whaling for the loss of His Love of His Life and daughter was heartbreaking to hear as well. Almost 6 years is coming up and the pain and loss IS still there…we were never born and taught about grief and how someone should act. There IS No right or wrong way someone should act. Each person processes grief differently. My father stopped going to church for about 6-8 months, and for me about a year. One day church called my dad in his heart to go and so he did…he sat there with no joy or happiness in his heart and soul. He sat there crying…people came up to him and chatted with him…6 years later…he’s doing okay but my dad lonely without his Love and one of his daughters. I am lonely without My Momma and Sister but what life has taught ME…Just because the world is upside-down…it doesn’t wait for You…it keeps going and within that you have to find a way to get back up on your feet and start walking again. Baby steps in the beginning then slowly ease into it. Never push Yourself into doing something Your uncomfortable and not ready for. Give YOURSELF time to Grieve and Process things. It’s So hard but when you turn around and look and where you are years later…you’d be pretty amazed at yourself. You Grew…more then you ever thought you could. I’m Proud of Myself and where I am in My life. I Thank God for his Help and continued help with Me and My Family. He also blessed Me with someone special in My life and I’m Happy once again in My Life! They too also just experienced 2 losses in their life last year 4 months apart with their Father and Grandfather. I’m Blessed that I was placed in his life to help him through his losses as well.
Chin up Lori…Life isn’t easy without out Loved one by our side but I know they are right here with us *places her hand over her heart* there in our hearts to keep them alive in any way that we can. Share memories about them, laugh about the fun stuff they did and silly things they did things. They ARE here with us…in Spirit.
Bless You and Your Loving family Lori…Never Loose that Faith and Hope In our Lord. 🙂
Love your rawness and encouragement. I lost my husband of 40 years on July 16 to cancer. He took treatment and supposedly “was doing well” according to doctors, and gone 6 days later. I didn’t get to say goodbye. No kids, all alone, could use prayer. Thank you 🙏♥️
I am so sorry!
So very sorry for your loss, I lost my dad (46 yrs old )when I was 14 and my mom when she was 94. So glad I was blessed to be with her the last 3 years she was here. I moved in so she could stay in her home. I would have loved to have been with my dad longer but Jesus wanted him to come home. I’ve been married 3 times and they are all gone now, was divorced so it wasn’t like your situation but it still wasn’t easy. I watched my mom after dad was killed in a car accident, take care of 3 daughters n 1 son. Ages 19 14 11 n 6. It was so hard for her but God smiled on us and sent my step dad 3 yrs later adding two brothers to the bunch 15 & 11 He passed 5 yrs before she did. I pray you will continue to put your trust in Jesus and He will direct your path. You have two beautiful girls. I have 1 son n 2 daughters all grown now with families of their own 3 granddaughters and 3 grandsons plus extra step son n step daughter n 3 grandsons n 1 granddaughter Only my youngest daughter n granddaughter n grandson live here. Daughter n 2 granddaughters live in Illinois and my son and 2 grandsons live in Costa Rica So they are off living their lives, miss them but it’s ok. My steps live in west Texas about 400:mi from me. . Hope I haven’t bored you too much. Please take care. Remember “ you can eat an elephant…one bite at a time”. My God keep you and yours in the palm of His hand. Be blessed
Lori, Having been a widow at 28 with 2 littles in tow, I have been able to relate to your heartfelt posts. I wished many times that I could give you a hug. I have traveled this unreal year with you. The year of painful ‘firsts’, 1st birthday, 1st Christmas, etc. is almost at an end. It never is over, but it does get easier. You have learned to cope and smile and to keep going for your children. You are doing ‘the work of grieving’, and I’m sure have helped many of your followers. You are learning to look for the good, and beautiful which really helped me. Bless you and your wonderful children.❤️🙏🕊️
Lori, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your heart with all of us. You have always been an inspiration to me. As I have been walking through my own cancer journey for a year and half now, one of the songs that I listen to so often is Sunday is Coming. Just as you have said, we have hope and I lean into that. Continuing to pray for you and your family!